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Wax and Wane. A tale of wax play.

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Mistress J has a steady stream of regular clients with particular interests. Today’s blog post features Moe,* a gentleman who is really into the art of wax play.

Always on the lookout for things to delight my guests, I came across these body wax candles . from Agreeable Agony when I was at DomCon this past May. I bought them with Moe in mind. You see, not only are they beautiful, but they come in glass pitchers that allow for a nice pour, and Mistress doesn’t get her fingers scorched. They burn at a slightly lower temperature, and I can usually peel them off in a long, sexy strip.

Such agreeable clean up

I start of his session by securing him to the table and warming him up with a nice, sensual massage, rubbing the warmed oil over his body. A coat of oil provides a nice barrier for the wax, and the dried wax comes off easier. After I get his body tingling with sensations, I randomly pour the hot, melted wax on him.

rollin’, rollin’ rollin’ RAWhide!

For added effect, I often use my ice roller. Moe is a huge sensation slut and likes the alternating feeling of heat and ice. Sometimes he even screams as the hot wax drips into a sensitive or intimate area… But he must like it, he keeps coming back.

We have conducted very comprehensive and scientific studies on the candles and have reached these conclusions:

The cheap candles burn the hottest. Moe likes those best, as he’s a wax slut. They are however, the most difficult to clean up because they crumble like crazy and make a big mess.

Variety is the spice of life!

Miss J pours it on thick.

The Agreeable Agony candles are my favorite. I love the pitcher for ease of pouring and also really enjoy peeling the wax off of his body. I aim to peel the whole strip off without it breaking. Look at the photo for an example of what I’m talking about.

The English citron candles I use to make the house smell good are also nice, and sit firmly in the middle of the rating scale. They come in a glass jar, which is handy, and they don’t crumble as much as the cheap ones, and they’re by far the best smelling ones I use.

So, to make the most of it, I use every type of candle I have and let Moe enjoy them, one by one, drip by drip.

Cleaning the wax off of him is fun for the both of us, and sometimes I thinks it’s my favorite part of the session, aside from Moe’s screams. As i mentioned earlier, I love peeling off long strips of wax. Bur what about the other types? Well, those metal claws I have come in handy. I use one to scrape off the chunks. It provides an interesting sensation for Moe and I think is even a little scary.

After tormenting his back, I turn him over and start all over again!

If you have a hankerin’ for wax play, and are curious about my style of Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you.

*not his real name.

A Handmade Tale. A Peek Inside Mistress J’s Dungeon!

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You CAN keep a good man down!

 

It is said that necessity it the mother of invention. Well, Mistress J is blessed with a keen imagination and talented kinky friends who can help her invent pervy items for the dungeon!

Let’s take a look around the dungeon and see what has been crafted by hand.

The largest item is my cross. Made by Max, this cross has the ability to come apart for transportation. The wooden panels are attached to the metal X, which Max fabricated himself. The wood is birch, and now has a dark stain on it.

This photo is of the cross before it was stained. I think it needs a second coat. Who wants to be a good boy and do it for me? 

You might also notice I now have different curtains. I like changing things up now and again.

I love having nekkid men kneel in front of it for me.  A good place for a man is on all fours with his arse in the air, ready for inspection…

 

The second largest item is my Queening Chair. Perhaps you are wondering if this is a chair for short people? The answer is no. The chair is for the lady’s comfort during certain activities. The height is perfect for panty sniffing and administering showers into the mouth while the person in question lies beneath.  The chair also allows the lady to be comfortable while using her feet on select body parts. After all, why should Mistress J be uncomfortable, that’s the sub’s job!

The chair was modified by Tanya Caress. This is the last remaining chairs from my late grandmother’s beloved dining room set. I still have the table in my dining area. It is a gorgeous parquet patterned solid wood table, and I plan to keep it forever.  The chair is appropriately Queen Anne in style. Fit for royalty I say. I wonder if Grandma would approve of it’s current use?

 

I love to have access to various parts. A spreader bar helps with that purpose. I pry open a man’s legs, then cuff their ankles to the bar. I often pull their legs back and chain them to the wall. Such a nice view.

The spreader bar was also a Tanya Caress specialty, re-purposed from a closet rod. I still use it to hang things. ha ha.

 

One of my favorite items is my home made humbler. Simple and inexpensive, the humbler fits ALL sizes of balls because it is just dowels and rubber bands. I pull the junk back between the legs and secure the dowels around it. Try standing up and walking, I dare you!

On the same note, a pair of chopsticks and some rubber bands really show a nipple who is the boss. These two items give a new meaning to the term morning wood! 

 

I know these items are tempting you. Give in to your desire and give me a call. I’d love to create a session just for you!

If you are curious about my dungeon and my style of Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you.
 

Wax On, Wax Off. Wax Play With Mistress J

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Grasshopper, I know sometimes your cravings require a delicate balance between sensuality and sadism. I am writing about the perfect session for you. A hot wax session! Hot candle wax play is fun. It is artistic. It requires submission and tolerance. And, if scented candles are used, can be a fruity good time!

Ryan was feeling stressed out. I invited him over for a hot wax session and he readily agreed. My weapons of choice that day were a white pillar candle, a red cranberry candle in a tin, an evergreen scented candle and two sex candles. One in purple, the other red.

I lit the candles 10 minutes before he arrived, so the wax would be nice and gooey when it was time to play. After he stretched his nekkid body on the massage table, we got down to business.

Securing his hands to the table, I proceeded to pour the colorful wax on his shoulders. Red, purple, green, white. So colorful and pretty. 

Ryan enjoyed the warm wax dripping onto his skin. Sometimes he’d wiggle if  a drop was unusually hot, then he’d settle back down and mutter his pleasure at the heat.

I pour my wax  from a pretty high angle to prevent burning the skin. The distance gives the wax time to cool off so the subject won’t get burned.  We did a side by side comparison of a sex candle vs. a regular candle. The reviews were mixed. 

Ryan thought the sex candles (which claim to burn at a lower temperature) actually felt hotter on contact, but cooled faster then a soy candle. Another client said the opposite. He thought the sex candles were 5 degrees cooler. I found these results interesting, and I think more research is in order.

Ryan’s back and shoulders are hairless, so I poured the wax with glee. You could say that I poured my heart out to him. Ha, ha. His ass was a little hairy, so I rubbed some massage oil in before coating his buns. A coat of oil helps the wax come off the hair. Ryan said the oil made the wax feel a tiny bit hotter, something he enjoyed! I also made sure I coated his balls. 

Now, I have played with Ryan many times and I know his tastes and limits. He is a pain, sensation and bondage slut. If I am browsing the internet for toys and am doubtful, I ask myself, “would Ryan like this?” If the answer is yes, I buy it. My point is, I knew he could take the heat of the wax and enjoy it. I know wax play isn’t for everyone, but those who like it, will enjoy a session with lil’ ol’ me. 

Love, Italian style!

That is a good lead in for the next part. I poured wax in his butt crack and balls! Ryan wiggled and giggled. He liked it. I knew he would, the little perv. I used green, red and white wax for his under carriage. How festive it looked. Viva Italia! I had a sudden craving for pasta. 

The session went on with me pouring wax all over him. Eventually, he like, totally, looked like an 80’s splatter painting, it was sooo rad! He was so bright and colorful. And the dried wax created a little bit of a restricted feeling, another thing Ryan enjoyed. 

When I felt my masterpiece was complete, I stopped pouring and let the wax harden. Now it was time to clean him up for the shower! I took one of the cat claws and scraped off the wax. It came off in hard clumps. Little bits clung to the hair on his balls. I used a dry brush and got them clean. He seemed to enjoy the attention down there.

Feel like experiencing some hot wax play? I’d love to pour it on thick!

Intrigued? Contact me.

If you are curious about wax play & my style of Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you.